The Heroic Healer-Day 1

I’m 30 years, 9 months and 23 days old and if one thing has served me it’s the power of time to heal, instill wisdom and provide the ultimate platform for growth. This post is inspired by a break up of sorts. Or at least that’s what we’ll call it. I’m telling you because I hope this resonates. The uncertainty, pain and ride of emotions from shifting relationships are a healing we will all go through and continue to struggle with. And as we anxiously wait, time is the ultimate healer.

But this post isn’t about the break up, it’s about the power of time and space to direct our lives. Viktor Frankl most famously said: “Between stimulus and response there is space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”

This ending relationship is fresh, just hours ago of me writing this. And as I reflect on this moment and these emotions I am reminded of all the break ups I have endured and overcome in my lifetime. All the failures, setbacks and bad days I have endured and overcome.

Life is funny like that, it sure does love the power of perspective. With all the things time has healed it also brought the outlook that the wound was actually a blessing. This growth is partially why I can handle this break up in a much healthier and optimistic way than Taylor of 5 years ago. Time has allowed me to evolve.

While I don’t understand the lesson, growth or “why” behind these tough emotions, I choose to believe life happens for us not against us. And one day I’ll say “thanks” to the universe for this gift.

The lesson I’m getting to here is the power of time in your life if you choose to use it. This is a classic example of what I call “Yes, and” situations.

It’s simple, and it’s not easy.

It’s what we need and not what we want.

It’s the ultimate healer and it’s hard.

The power thought lies in our response as Viktor Frankl states. Whether you are going through a break up, making a big decision or having a hard conversation there is power in time. Wait a few hours or another day and you would be surprised what changes. Your mentality, approach and feelings will come from a more directed place. You will be calmer and confident.

And the key is you won’t be reactionary.

I’m here writing this so that I can sit in the space. I can feel the hurt and I can ponder how this is the best thing for me.